Honestly, the paper trail stuff drives me nuts too, but I’ve found a system that helps. I keep a running spreadsheet of every deposit or transfer over $100, with a quick note about what it was for. Then, I save PDFs of my bank statements each month and toss any relevant screenshots into a cloud folder. It’s a bit much, but when the lender asks, I can just pull up whatever they need. It’s not perfect, but it’s saved me from scrambling at the last minute. The $12 pizza money thing is wild, though—sometimes it feels like they want to know what you had for breakfast...
Yeah, the level of detail they want is kind of wild. I remember during my last refi, they questioned a $50 Venmo from my sister—turns out she was just paying me back for movie tickets. I get why they’re so strict, but it does feel like overkill sometimes. I’ve started flagging anything that isn’t a paycheck or a regular bill, just in case. It’s a pain, but I’d rather be over-prepared than have the process stall out.
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That’s wild about the Venmo thing. I had something similar—my lender flagged a $30 PayPal from my cousin for splitting pizza. I get that they’re trying to make sure there’s no weird money coming in, but sometimes it feels like they’re just looking for reasons to slow things down. I started keeping a little spreadsheet of any “odd” transactions, just so I could explain them if needed. It’s a hassle, but it did save me some back-and-forth emails.
Here’s how I handled it step by step, in case it helps anyone else:
1. Every time I got paid or paid someone back (even small stuff), I’d jot down what it was for.
2. If it wasn’t a regular paycheck or bill, I’d screenshot the transaction and save it in a folder.
3. When the lender asked about something, I already had the info ready—no scrambling through old texts or bank statements.
It sounds like overkill, but honestly, it made things smoother when they started asking questions. The process is already stressful enough without having to dig up details from months ago.
One thing I’m still not sure about: do all lenders go this deep, or does it depend on the bank? My friend went through a credit union and said they barely looked at her statements, while my big-name lender wanted explanations for everything over $20. Maybe it’s just luck of the draw... or maybe some places are stricter post-pandemic?
Curious if anyone else has noticed differences between lenders or if there are ways to make them less suspicious of every little transfer. Sometimes I wonder if using cash would be easier, but then you lose the paper trail... which probably makes them even more nervous.
That’s a smart system you set up—definitely beats scrambling for explanations when the lender starts nitpicking. I’ve seen a lot of variation in how deep lenders dig, and honestly, it’s not always predictable. Some big banks seem to have stricter automated flagging, while smaller credit unions or local lenders might be more relaxed or just ask for less documentation. But then again, I’ve had clients where it was the opposite.
I’m curious—did anyone ever get pushback from a lender about “too many” explanations or documentation? Like, is there such a thing as over-documenting? Sometimes I wonder if providing too much detail actually raises more questions than it answers. Also, has anyone tried using gift letters for family transfers and found that made things easier, or did it just add another layer of paperwork?
It feels like there’s a fine line between being prepared and making them suspicious by being overly thorough...
I’ve definitely run into situations where too much documentation seemed to backfire. Had a deal last year where I thought I was being proactive—sent in every possible explanation for some transfers between accounts, thinking it’d save time. Instead, the underwriter started digging into every little detail, asking for more statements and even explanations for stuff that was totally routine. It almost felt like the more I gave them, the more they wanted.
Gift letters are a mixed bag, too. They’re supposed to make things easier, but in my experience, they just lead to more follow-up. The lender wanted proof of the donor’s ability to give, bank statements, sometimes even a letter from the donor’s bank. It’s never as simple as just handing over a letter.
Honestly, I think there’s a sweet spot—enough info to answer obvious questions, but not so much that you open new cans of worms. Too much detail can definitely make them suspicious, especially if it looks like you’re over-explaining. Sometimes less really is more.
