Thinking about refinancing my VA mortgage, curious what others are doing

I’ve seen lenders get a little cagey when you start nitpicking every line item, but I’ve also had clients get a couple hundred knocked off just by asking. It’s a balancing act - push too hard and they might pad the rate elsewhere, like you said. I usually tell folks to focus on the big-ticket fees and compare total costs, not just the rate or one-off charges. Sometimes it’s worth paying a bit more upfront if the long-term numbers make sense.

That’s spot on about the balancing act. I’ve had deals where I pushed hard on origination fees, only to see “miscellaneous” costs pop up elsewhere - almost like a game of whack-a-mole. One time, I actually got a lender to drop their processing fee, but then the appraisal review fee mysteriously doubled. In my experience, it’s usually smarter to zero in on the APR and total cash-to-close rather than sweating every tiny line item. Sometimes those little fees aren’t worth the headache if the overall numbers work out better in the end.

- Gotta admit, I’m a little more obsessive about the line items, maybe to a fault.
- Had a lender try to sneak in a “courier fee” once - on a digital closing.
- Sure, APR matters, but sometimes those small fees add up faster than you’d think.
- I’ve found that calling out even the weird $35 charges can get you some leverage... or at least a good laugh.

- Love that you’re digging into the details - sometimes those “junk fees” are where lenders quietly pad things.
- Seen the infamous “courier fee” too, which is wild when everything’s online now. I’ve had clients push back and get those dropped more often than not.
- APR’s just one piece, totally agree. Once you add up admin, processing, and mystery charges, it sometimes wipes out any rate advantage.
- Curious if anyone’s ever had luck negotiating a lower origination fee? Or do most folks just focus on the smaller line items?

Negotiating Fees on VA Refis - My Experience

- I’ve actually had more success negotiating the origination fee than I expected, but it really comes down to the lender’s flexibility. Some are totally rigid, but I’ve seen a few knock it down by a quarter point or so, especially if you’re bringing in competing offers.
- The “courier fee” thing drives me nuts too. Last time I refinanced, I called that out and they dropped it immediately - guess it was easier to waive than explain.
- One thing I’ve noticed: lenders sometimes act like the big-ticket fees are non-negotiable, but if you push on the total closing costs and say you’re shopping around, they’ll often “find” a way to trim something, even if it’s not the origination fee itself.
- Honestly, the smaller line items add up fast. I always request a detailed breakdown and just go line by line - sometimes there’s stuff that makes zero sense for an online process.
- Not every lender plays ball, but if you’ve got good credit and a clean file, you’ve got leverage. Don’t be shy about asking for a better deal... worst case, they say no, but sometimes they’ll surprise you.