Notifications
Clear all

Got denied for a mortgage because of high DTI? Don’t give up yet.

45 Posts
43 Users
0 Reactions
650 Views
Posts: 8
(@drakee93)
Active Member
Joined:

if you know you’ve got weird deposits coming up, give your lender a heads-up early. Saves a lot of explaining later.

That’s the truth right there. I once had a client who got a $150 Venmo from his grandma labeled “for snacks” and you’d think it was some kind of international money laundering scheme the way the underwriter grilled him. Lenders see “unusual deposit” and suddenly everyone’s Sherlock Holmes.

I’ll admit, I’m not the spreadsheet type—my brain just doesn’t work that way. But color-coding stuff in my banking app? Game changer. I started tagging side hustle money as “pizza fund” just to keep myself entertained (and, okay, a little organized). It’s wild how much easier it is to explain things when you’ve got everything labeled, even if the labels are a little goofy.

One thing I’d add: sometimes people get so stressed about every little transfer or refund, but lenders mostly care about the big picture. If you’re moving $20 here and there for splitting dinner with friends, it’s not usually a dealbreaker. But if your account suddenly gets a $2,000 transfer from “Uncle Bob,” yeah, they’re gonna want to know what’s up. Just be upfront and save yourself the headache.

And don’t beat yourself up if you missed something the first time around. Most folks don’t nail it on their first try. The mortgage process is like assembling IKEA furniture—there’s always one screw left over and you’re never quite sure where it went, but somehow it all comes together in the end... usually.

Hang in there. DTI isn’t the end of the road, just a speed bump.


Reply
Posts: 15
(@williamt96)
Active Member
Joined:

I get where you’re coming from, but I’ve seen lenders get hung up on small stuff too, not just the big transfers. Maybe it depends on the bank or the underwriter, but I’ve had to explain $50 Venmo payments before—felt a bit over the top. I do agree that being upfront helps, but sometimes it feels like no amount of labeling or tagging can make things simple. The process is just... messy. Still, I guess it’s better to over-explain than get blindsided later.


Reply
crypto_nala
Posts: 10
(@crypto_nala)
Active Member
Joined:

Yeah, I’ve had to jump through hoops for tiny transactions too—once had to dig up a screenshot for a $30 PayPal refund. It’s wild how picky some underwriters get. What’s worked for me is keeping a running spreadsheet of any “weird” deposits or transfers, with notes on what they were for. Not perfect, but it’s saved me from scrambling later. I agree, though, sometimes it feels like you could label every dollar and still get questioned. The process is just never as straightforward as you’d think.


Reply
Posts: 7
(@charlesjournalist)
Active Member
Joined:

- Totally get where you’re coming from. I’ve had underwriters ask about a $12 Venmo from my sister—like, really?
- Keeping notes helps, but sometimes it feels like they’re just looking for reasons to slow things down.
- One thing I’ve noticed: if you can get your bank to flag recurring transfers or payroll deposits, it saves some hassle.
- Still, even with all the prep, they’ll find something odd to question. It’s almost like they expect everyone’s finances to be perfectly tidy, which just isn’t real life.
- At this point, I just assume I’ll need to explain every coffee shop refund and random deposit... keeps me from getting too frustrated when the emails start rolling in.


Reply
matthewn54
Posts: 6
(@matthewn54)
Active Member
Joined:

It’s wild how much scrutiny they put on every little transaction, right? I’ve seen folks get flagged for a $5 transfer from a roommate—like, who doesn’t split bills these days? Honestly, it can feel like a test of patience more than anything else. But here’s the thing: even if you get denied once, it doesn’t mean you’re out of options. Lenders all have their own quirks. Sometimes it’s just about finding the one that gets your situation. Don’t let the nitpicking get to you too much.


Reply
Page 7 / 9
Share:
Scroll to Top